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MANAGING RELATIONSHIPS: CREATING A DATE NIGHT

When you have a family and a house to take care of sometimes your relationship with your spouse gets put on the back burner. Not because you don’t love him/her, but because you are so caught up in the things going on around you that you fail to realize that your relationship is being put on hold. You have to remember to carve out time for your significant other. By making sure you dedicate time for just your relationship you are emphasizing to your spouse how important they are to you. One of the ways you can do this is by creating a date night at home.
  • What is a date night?
    A date night is a special night set aside each week specifically for your relationship. It is a time for you and your spouse to spend some quality time together. This is a chance for you to catch up on the minor details of your lives and to express appreciation for the different qualities that each of you bring to your family and to your relationship. A date night is time that you all carve out just for the two of you.
  • Who can attend the date night?
    No kids, pets or other distractions allowed. Now is the time where you get to be selfish and cut others out of the equation. No phone calls, text messages, emails or voicemails are allowed. Let everyone know that you can’t be interrupted and stick to it. Give your full and undivided attention to your spouse, they deserve it.
  • When should our date night be?
    Whatever day of the week is convenient for you. My date night is on Thursday because that is the best day for my relationship. Another day might be better for you. Get together with your significant other and figure out what day would work best for the two of you.
  • Where should our date night be?
    Be creative. I have held date nights in the dining room, living room, our bedroom and in warmer weather outside. It’s up to you. Let your imagination be the limit. If you want to do a movie date, then hold it in your living room. Spread out a blanket and have dinner picnic style on the floor in front of the tv. If you have a porch or a patio and the weather is nice, then have your date night outside. Light some candles, play your favorite music softly in the background and just enjoy the conversation. Be spontaneous and make sure you have fun.
  • What is the best time to have a date night?
    This is a tricky question and the answer will differ for every couple. All of my sons are in their beds and asleep by 8:30pm, so my date nights start at 9pm. If you have older children, your date night can start sooner. It all depends on your family. Make sure you have enough time to prepare before hand and then enough time to enjoy yourselves.
  • Why should I have a date night?
    This is the easiest question to answer. Because you love your significant other.
I hope that by providing these tips to you it encourages you to start implementing a date night within your relationship. Everyone wants to feel special and everyone wants to be loved. By paying special attention to the one that already has your heart, it’ll strengthen the bonds that have already been created between the two you.

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4 Comments

  1. Good tips!

    This is something that DH and I really need to get back to doing. With kids it can sometimes be tough, but I like your idea of staying in w/the kids in bed. We do not have family anywhere near us, and I’m reluctant to get a babysitter, so this is perfect for us.

    Thanks, Shynea!

  2. I love you tips! I just ran across you blog after you left a comment on my meal plan. I have to say, I love love love it! I also love that we are the same age and have the same views about family. Wonderful to see a blog like this. I just have to add you to my blog list so I can check in regularly. Thanks for your comment, btw!

  3. Hubby and I have had a date night many times with the kids awake. We will rent them a movie or two. We make dinner for everyone. The kids are served in the house. The oldest is in charge. The kids also will do some clean up. Hubby and I will eat on the patio. Later the kids will be “waiters” and bring us drink refills. Very cute. The will peek out the windows to see if they can catch us kissing. Of course, then we have to give them a show!!!
    We will tell them when it is time to go to bed. We started this when they were 4,6,and 8.
    Over the years they have gotten more self reliant. This is how I knew the oldest was old enough to watch the younger two for short periods of time.

  4. Very helpful. I just need to get hubbs to sit still long enough to even think about date night! LOL!

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