“I need my me time, so where is it?” As a mom, I have found myself asking this question on more then one occasion. It feels as if there aren’t enough hours in the day to complete everything on my to-do list, let alone find time to do something for me. At the end of most days I find that I am either too tired, or too frustrated, to even attempt to carve out time for just myself. That is where I make my biggest mistake.

I have to learn to stop putting myself last all of the time. I usually feel an extreme amount of guilt when taking even twenty minutes to give myself a manicure. To me, that could have been more quality time spent with my family. And then I wonder why, at the end of the day, I’m so grumpy. It’s because I have failed, once again, to do anything for myself.

As a mom, it’s important to do something just for us every once-in-awhile. It’s time for us to take time out of our daily schedules to take a breather and reflect on our own needs. It’s time for us to appreciate ourselves. Even when your day looks like a never ending cycle of nose wiping, tear stopping, tantrum prevention and toddler chasing there are a few things that you can do at home to take time out to spend time doing things for you.

  • Take a nice, hot bubble bath. Whether it’s in the morning or in the evening, take some time out of your day to just soak. Buy yourself some really nice bubble bath and dedicate it for just your use. Don’t use it for your children when their bubble bath runs out. They’ll be okay sitting in plain water for just one night. If you feel extra adventurous, light some candles and play some music softly in the background. I find the time to do this late at night when all of my children are asleep.
  • Solicit your significant other for a full body massage. Chances are if you have small children at home you have a bottle of baby oil around the house. If not, grab your best smelling lotion and tell him/her to rub away all of your stress. Even if done for just a few minutes, this can be really relaxing and stress relieving. Another bonus? Now your entire body is moisturized.
  • Paint your fingernails and/or toenails and throw on a little makeup. You will be surprised at how taking a few extra minutes in the morning to put on some makeup or touch-up chipped nail polish will make you feel. I know that when I feel as if my morning is going to be bad, make-up won’t make my day better but it will make me feel better about myself. A win-win situation on the mornings when I need a little pick-me-up.
  • Buy a drink for just yourself. Whether you prefer coffee, tea or a glass of wine, buy a drink that only you can drink. I know at night I like to sip on a cup of Vanilla Chai Latte while I catch up on my emails or read other blogs. This is a drink that I make when I want to relax and do something that I enjoy. For some reason it puts me in a mellow mood and sets the tone for the rest of my evening.
  • Spend fifteen minutes alone with your spouse talking about your day. Sometimes we get so use to the monotony of our day that we fail to realize that we are working a full time job, plus overtime. If you are a WAHM or a SAHM mom, we fall into a daily routine. Then when our spouse comes home and talk about their day at work, we feel as if all of the work that we do throughout the day isn’t as important. That so isn’t true. Make a point to highlight some of the good things that you have done that day, or some of the new accomplishments that your child has reached. I can guarantee that your spouse will appreciate knowing this information. An added bonus? Make some kind of art project with your children to give to daddy when he walks through the door. Your child will feel good throughout the day anticipating giving the present, and your spouse will feel good knowing that he was his family’s thoughts.
These are just a few things that you can do to dedicate some time for just yourself. This is by no means an exhaustive list of ideas, but it is a few to get you started on spending more time with just you. You have to understand that at the end of the day your happiness reflects on the type of care you extend to your family. If your not truly happy, then how can you make someone else happy? Take the time out to appreciate yourself, and I can guarantee that your family will notice.

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  1. I just posted something to this effect last thursday! I called it “a spa day…at home” and listed lots of new and different ways and home items to use for pampering. It was a big hit with my readers. I take thursdays to myself for the most part and do at least one thing just for me. Thanks for posting this.

  2. You don’t know how much I needed to see this today. Definitely need to sometimes do things for myself. Most of the time it is concentrated on everyone else.

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