FRIDAY NIGHT WAS GIRLS NIGHT OUT
Every once in awhile, I have to get free. Not because I don’t enjoy being around my family, but because I need to remember what it feels like to be a woman and not just a “mom.” I know that other women with children can sympathize with me. So often we devote our entire lives to our family, and raising our children, that we forget that we are women too.
We aren’t just “mom.” We aren’t just “wives” or “girlfriends” or “significant others.”
We are women who once before had a life that included friends; that included other adults. We use to have conversations that didn’t revolve around breastfeeding, or baby bowel movements, or Noggin. (If you are a mom of young children you already know what Noggin is.) We use to go out with our friends on adventures other than play dates.
Although our children should be the center of our world, we can’t loose our identity. That, my dears, has happened to me. I’ve gotten so wrapped up in work and family, that I have forgotten to just enjoy “me.” To just celebrate being a woman. So this Friday a friend of mine staged a Girls Night Out/Birthday Party and I have to say that I really enjoyed myself. I fought the frump and actually dressed up for a change. (I curled my hair and everything.)
We went to a beautiful restaurant/jazz club called Arielle’s. This has been my only night out with the girls in over two years. I thoroughly enjoyed drinking an Apple Martini and ordering delicious seafood appetizers. We danced and talked and was just able to purely enjoy ourselves. As I looked around at each of the woman’s faces that I had went out with that night, I saw no stress. There weren’t any worry lines or furrowed brows. It was happiness, excitement and pure joy.
We were having fun. We let loose, cut a rug, had a few drinks and savored in the memory of what it felt like to be women.
Girls Night Out was awesome and we have vowed to do that at least once a month. I can’t wait until November.
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How nice you got to go out with your friends and enjoy their company. It’s nice to feel alive as a woman and not mom. I TOTALLY agree. What a change form the regular routine of the day. Work, work, work, family, etc. Hmmm, I think i need a girl’s night out now! Thanks for sharing your night out.
What a lucky girl! I also agree that us moms need that. We have a group here in Pittsburgh called the Burgh Moms and they try to coordinate a gathering each month…sometimes just the girls, sometimes with the hubbies and sometimes with the whole family. Next gathering is a cookie exchange for the holidays! I’ve never been able to make it but it’s a great way for us all to get out and relax.
You look great Shynea!
Im so glad you posted this! Next Friday will be my girls night out as well! I cannot wait to go!
That’s great that you had the chance to go out. My cousins/BFFs do this once a month. We try to meet-up at a restaurant (nothing too fancy) and eat and have a drink (or too). We let loose, gossip, and just laugh. It’s a great way to unwind and let everything out on the table.
Good for you! You are not alone. I’ve even made the stupid remark to my daughter “well since your dad is not stepping up when I’m not here, I’ll just put my plans on hold until you guys get older…” Are you kidding me! Did I fall and bump my head like the “little monkeys jumping on the bed”? I had to step back and evaluate what I just said. It’s very easy to give ourselves the betterment of others but are we really supposed to lose our identity. I’m glad you went out and celebrated freedom w/o the guilt and was not “tardy for the party”! HA!
I so know what you are saying. I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore, sometimes. I so get lost in that “MOM”, “WIFE” mode, that I forget to have fun sometimes. I’m working on setting up a monthly girls night/day out too. I’m glad you had a great time!
I haven’t had a girls night out since… um… uh… Well come to think of it I’m not sure that I’ve had a girls night out since we left Mississippi. That was FIVE YEARS ago. Oh wait no I take that back. I’d say actually it’s been about 3 years. In any event, TOO DOGGONE LONG! haha Too bad I don’t live closer. We could have a blast!
Glad you got to get out! You looked sooooooo pretty!!
I am so glad you were able to do this. I am a firm believer in doing something for self, from time to time. It helps to renew your spirit and always adds something extra to the relationship with your mate.. you go girl!
Niiiice! Glad you went out and had a great time!
Yes, Indeed we had a blast @ Arielle’s last Friday! You said it best Shynea! We laughed, were excited and full of joy! I think we all needed it! Again, thanks for coming! Can’t wait until November!