Relationship BootcampNow that we have spent some time getting to know our significant other again, let’s step it up a notch by incorporating date nights into our romance lives. The important thing about date nights is that you want them to be consistent no matter what. If you decide to host a date night every Friday then make sure you are committed to doing them every Friday. If your date nights are the 1st and 3rd Friday of every month, then make sure that your schedule is clear. You want to get into a habit and make these date nights of upmost priority.

One of the hardest things to do is getting your spouse interested in date nights. The common thinking consensus is “what are we going to do at home that we don’t already do?” I can guarantee if you make the first two date nights “memorable” he will be able to answer his own question eventually.

Now, according to Mona, you can breathe a sigh of relief because I won’t have you doing any pretzel type yoga moves. I will, however, have you create an intimate setting at home where you are going to focus on his five senses during your next date night.

As a refresher, the five senses are hearing, tasting, smelling, touching and seeing. It’s important to stimulate all five of these senses EVERY date night in order to create a night that is memorable for your significant other. (Because, FYI, men aren’t complex creatures. The simpler you keep thing, the better.)

Let’s take some time to focus on ways that you can appeal to each of your spouse’s senses. I have a few ideas on how you can make your next date night more memorable.


This is the easiest sense to appeal to. I have always heard the saying that “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” and this is actually really true. After a long, stressful day at work who wouldn’t want to come home to a really good home cooked meal?

The key to successfully appealing to this sense is making a meal you know he will enjoy BUT you want to also make a meal that he hasn’t either ate in awhile or ate before. If you know that your spouse enjoys fish, but you cook fish twice a week, that doesn’t count as a memorable meal. Make him a steak instead with bacon wrapped maple glazed shrimp or try a new recipe. Try my recipe for Shrimp Stir Fry Pasta, it’s a quick, simple and tasty meal, and Easy Bacon Wrapped Maple Glazed Shrimp. (Both of these recipes are listed after this article.)


The aroma of your well cooked meal does not count when trying to appeal to this sense. You are going to want to create a second smell to go with the ambiance of your date night. We are trying to be sensual tonight, so light some candles with an appealing scent or put on some really good smelling perfume. (You know the one. It’s the scent that you put on and instantly he is drawn to you.)


Background noise is a must in any date night situation. When there is a pause in the conversation you are going to want to hear anything but air. (Or the faux sounds of crickets chirping in the background.) Let’s further set the mood by playing his favorite music in the background. Whether it’s R&B, country, classical, pop, rap or rock slide in a CD in and set the volume on low. If you want to get even more creative, make a mix CD with songs that both of you use to listen to when you first started dating. That will make for a very interesting conversation starter when your better half starts remembering where the two of you were when this song was playing.


Men are visual. You could never say another word to them, but as long as you look good, they are completely satisfied. To appeal to his sense of sight let’s do something out of the norm and actually dress up for them. Let’s put on something nice and remove our hair from the ponytail. Dress up in a nice outfit. Or for some of our more adventurous readers, some nice lingerie and heels. (You can never go wrong with heels.)

Remember ladies, men are very visual so let’s stimulate the eyes.


Touching is a great way to connect with your spouse. Whether it is through holding hands or kissing, the power of “touch” is an amazing and wonderful thing. Let’s take this date night to appreciate our significant other even further by exercising our sense of touch. Whether it is through massage or a hug, spend some time just touching your better half. Place your hand on top his during dinner. Brush up against him throughout the night. Dance closely together through some of your favorite slow songs. As long as your touching it doesn’t matter how you do it.

Okay ladies. You have your assignment. Create a date night this week that appeals to all of your spouses senses.

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  • 2 tbsp cooking oil
  • 4 tbsp soy sauce
  • 1 ½ pounds shrimp
  • 1 cup of white mushrooms
  • ¼ cup of scallions
  • 1 whole green bell pepper cut in strips
  • 1 whole red bell pepper cut in strips
  • 1 tbsp rice vinegar
  • 2 tbsp sesame oil
  • ½ cup chicken broth
  • 2 servings of pasta
  • Fettuccine or Angel Hair
  • Seasonings to taste


  1. Turn your stove onto medium high and add 1 tbsp of oil to your skillet. Once the oil is warm, add your bell peppers and mushrooms and cook until your vegetables are tender. Once this is done, add your scallions and continue to sauté them.
  2. When the vegetables are almost done, mix together in a separate bowl 1 tbsp of oil, 2 tbsp of soy sauce and your seasonings. Add in your shrimp and toss to coat.
  3. Put the shrimp mixture in with your vegetables and cook it until the shrimp turns pink.
  4. While the shrimp and vegetable mixture is cooking, set a pot of water on high and bring it to a boil. Add your noodles of choice once the water has reached a rolling boil.
  5. While the noodles are boiling, mix together 2 tbsp of soy sauce, 1 tbsp of rice vinegar and ½ cup of chicken broth in a bowl.
  6. Take the shrimp and vegetable mixture and add it to a bowl. Now pour the chicken broth mixture into the same skillet and return it back to the stove. Reduce the heat to medium. Strain your noodles and add them to your skillet.
  7. Heat the noodles and stir until coated evenly. (Approximately 2-3 minutes.)



  • 12 jumbo shrimp (six for each of you)
  • 6 slices of maple glazed bacon (cut in half)
  • Seasonings to taste (I prefer garlic salt and Old Bay)
  • Cooking spray


  1. Preheat your oven to 425 degrees.
  2. Take your jumbo shrimp and peel and devein them. Keep the tail intact though.
  3. Once you have rinsed your shrimp thoroughly, take your maple glazed bacon and start wrapping it around the shrimp. Start from the top of the shrimp and proceed downwards toward the tail.
  4. Spray a baking sheet lightly with your cooking spray.
  5. Place your bacon wrapped shrimp on the baking sheet and sprinkle lightly on one side with your seasonings of choice.
  6. Bake them in the oven for 10-15 minutes.
  7. Voila! A tasty, and quick, appetizer.

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  1. Cant wait.. Cant wait… for the date. Thanks girl! I have to go find me something to wear…. It will be a night to remember!

  2. So I guess Thanksgiving leftovers would be out as far as a romantic meal? Shoot! Okay…I will get on it and report back.

    • lol Mona, that was too funny!

      • Marquita, I’m going to go ahead and not be lazy for my husband. I would make turkey and dressing sexy if it meant I didn’t have to cook another meal after the holidays!

  3. I hear girl! The outcome will be worth it.

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