I GET TO MEET MY SISTER AFTER 27 YEARS
I have been trying to write this personal post for days. I have started over and over so many times. I have wavered from trying to be matter-of-fact to writing from the third person point of view. I have since decided to throw all properness out of the window and just write from my heart and soul. A lot of time and tears went into this post, and I hope that this is just as meaningful to my new sister, my family and my readers as it was for me.
I have an older sister I’ve never met.
For the majority of my life, since I was old enough to understand and comprehend, I knew that my father had another daughter. He had a daughter that was older than myself and a daughter that he loved despite the fact that he was never able to hold her, kiss her, love on her, protect her, tuck her in, raise her, support her or show her that he cared about her. Although it was a touchy subject that was brought up in our family whenever he thought about home, I knew that she was on his mind more often than words could ever express.
I knew her name. Amanda.
I’ve said it over and over again. I’ve always wanted to meet her. I’ve always wanted to know what it felt like to have someone to talk to when I couldn’t go to my mother. (Because as we all know, when you’re a teenager you feel as if you can never go to your mother about all of the trivial things that are going on in your life.) I missed her just as much as my dad did, if not more, because I always wondered what it would be like to have her here.
And then we found her.
I know that this has been a long time coming. The excitement that my dad felt was uncontrollable. He was in complete disbelief that he was so close to being able to speak to his daughter; the one that he had yearned for through his years in the Vietnam War and then again through the time that he served in the Gulf War. Through all of the hardships that he suffered in his life when he was growing up, I knew that not being able to be apart of his child’s life was very heartbreaking to him.
He was only young. No one can truly be left to blame. You can point fingers and tell what you felt happened until the “cows come home,” but in the end all that doesn’t matter.
There was a little girl lost in the midst of all of this.
And we finally get to meet her; have her be a part of our lives and try to create a family with the years that we have left.
No more tears of longing. Only tears of happiness for what we hope are good times and plenty of good memories to come.
We love you Amanda.
We welcome you sincerely, and wholeheartedly into our family.
It’s about time.
“To my darling daughter Amanda.”
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A very touching post. I’m sure that your sister will be welcome with open arms into your family.
Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha
She has such a sweet sincerity about her
I am SO happy for you Shy!!! *hugs* I can’t wait until you actually get to meet her face to face. I can CERTAINLY see the family resemblance! And just for the record, your daddy is a looker!!! LMBO Even if he was mean to me hahaha
I love you, girl! I know how tough it’s been for you since you found out you would be getting to meet her – so many emotions and so many thoughts. I pray that you and Amanda are able to develop a close bond of sisterhood and that she feels comfortable finally joining her family after all this time!
You wished she was around, I wished she was around.You didn’t even like me until last year when you found out you were going to be an aunt for the 1st time. I wish she would have grew up with us, then she could of made you be my friend, leave me alone & be nice to me, & maybe even smacked you around a little bit.lol
…Nall but forreal that was a beautiful contribute to the family, it made me tear up a lil bit.Daddy looked so nice in that military picture, I love that photo. You did a good job lil’ sis. Love ya girl. Bye Bye….
This was a very touching story. I wish you to the best as you build your relationship
What can I say, but Wow! I can truly say that my sister Shynea did a wonderful job writing this article. As I read this article it’s very touching, and it’s hard to stop the emotions and feelings that I am having inside. I sit here and look at the resemblance it the pictures especially the eyes and check bones. I stared at the picture for quite a while and then a tear rolled slowly down the left side of my face. I can say I have 7 wonderful sisters 4 of whom I have not met yet and 3 whom I have known and loved all my life. I want to personally thank Shynea for displaying this article on her website, it was truly touching to me, and all I can say is happiness is our highest well-being. It is piece to me. I am thankful for all the little special things which happen around me and to me every day. I’ve learned to be happy get a perspective when things look dark and I start to lose hope. So to everyone who reads this article remember happiness is a gift which is always there, even when it seems hidden. So if happiness forgets you never forget about it. Love Always, Amanda
What a beautiful story. I too have a sister I’ve never met in person. My father had her with his second wife. I’ve searched for her for years and found her on Facebook. Sent her a message and she agreed to talk. We’ve been talking via facebook for a year. Like you it was so wonderful to see a picture and know that I have another sister out there.
We plan to meet this year in Atlanta. I’m so excited and I know you are too to finally meet your big sister.
I pray you are able to meet your sister and you all become best friends.
Sharing your story let’s others know there is hope in the world.
This is a very touching story and I wish you and your family the best. I too have some brothers and sisters I haven’t met on my father’s side of the family.
God bless.
Hi Amanda, this is your stepmom and I wanted to let you know that you are and have always been loved, not around but not forgotten, We are blessed and thankful that we have found you and you are now a part of our lives, with God saying the same we hope to see you in the near future. Tell your family hello. I’ll talk to you soon
This is so endearing and beautiful. What a wonderful thing to be able to connect after all this time. Congrats on this awesome journey…I’m sure that the meeting will be full of emotions and quite an experience!
shyneam tht is so sweet! i am so glad you guys are finally meeting!
this is beautiful. I’m so happy that you found your sister and your dad is getting to know his daughter.
good luck to your family!
thats so sweet i want to meet my dad that i never met
This is a wonderful and touching story for you to share with the world. So many are seperated from their loved ones for different reasons, but the best part is that you all will get to create a relationship and sisterhood together. I wish you both happiness and continued peace. Love First and Love Last:)