Comments on: SOMETIMES A MARRIAGE & FRIENDSHIPS FALL APART; THAT’S THE WAY LIFE GOES

By: Dawn (Painter Mommy)

Dawn (Painter Mommy) — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 20:19:51 +0000

Oh no. I am so sorry to hear this. I didn’t know that you were having such a hard time. My prayers are with you sweety. I pray for healing in your marriage. Can there be any resolve I hope? I hate to see marriages break apart. I just went through it with my parents who were married for 37 years. So painful.

Anyway, I am so blessed to have you as a virtual friends and I really do pray that things will turn around for you.

God bless, DAWN

By: Chrissy

Chrissy — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 15:28:27 +0000

You are not alone. You have a loyal following of women who make changes in the lives of others or we would not be scouring the pavement to make lives better for our families. Sounds to me like your coming into the knowledge and transition of who you were called to be at another level. Hard to believe, you have a ministry w/in this website. God had chosen you to lead hundreds of thousands of women by your character and moral integrity. In turn, we have followers too.

Im not sure where/what your faith is, but tell me where have you read that it was easy to be a leader? The prophet Nathan advised king David that God makes it hard to be a king. Take this time of separation to ask God, “What have you called me to do? Separated me from? And, what are you manifesting in my life for my good?” You’d be surprised what this “sabatical” is cleansing from your spirit-man.

Friends will come and go according to the “divine will” of God. Our unfortunate part is, we cannot control life b/c we are not the Creator.

I can identify w/you greatly as if you took the words right out of my mouth. One day as I was going thru some issues concerning my husbands priorities, I admitted to a friend that I was afraid b/c I could not control this part of my life and I had to let God get my husband in check. I cried almost everyday b/c I felt unloved and not in his minds priority. Every little girl wants her prince to sweep her off her feet and take care of her so she would have no worries. Well, I got the poor ghetto guy that never learned how to love b/c his papa was a rollin stone. Love was a 4-letter word not a commandment.

My point is, dont be afraid of this time. Talk when you need to talk. Pray/meditate at will when your spirit needs to commune with Wisdom. Each experience right now is shaping a far more greater future than you can understand. Cry, walk, write, read, blog, analyze…whatever it takes to release stress…do it. Your not crazy, although it feels very necessary to medicate…lol

This is a tough time but you will have a greater testimony for us when this valley experience brings you to a mountain top.

By: Jessica @Riding with Jessica

Jessica @Riding with Jessica — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 04:45:06 +0000

Shynea,

Hang in there. Believe that everything will get better. In my darkest moments, when those I loved turned their backs, and all I had were my little ones depending on me to be strong. I would ask “what has I done to have others turn their backs and treat me that way”. My questions were answered by letting me know that I was being strengthened for the future. For more to come. And more did come. But now I could go thru it all over again and know everything will work itself out.

Don’t force anything. Your feelings are normal. You will work it all out for yourself.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 19:48:56 +0000

Do what you need to do for YOU, first because if you’re not okay, nobody else who depends on you can be okay. When everything settles down and you feel the need to revisit that stuff with your friend, then do so. If not, so be it. When the dust settles, you’ll find that the wind has blown mostly everyone else away. But only those strong enough to hang on will remain (including friends.) Tie a knot and hang on, girl! This, too shall pass.

By: Shanika

Shanika — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 13:59:33 +0000

Big Hugs To you. I agree with the other comments. I know you don’t know me. But I read your blog everyday. I am the same way. I go inward. You know what is best for you. I will keep you in my prays

By: K.O.

K.O. — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 05:33:02 +0000

Big hugs to you Shynea! Keep your head to the sky. I can feel your sadness from here and my heart goes out to you. You’re bigger than all of this, even when you don’t feel like it. I appreciate you girl!

By: latonya

latonya — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 03:59:11 +0000

I feel your pain!!!! going threw somethings my self it’s hard. but we have to let go and let God have his way!!! im praying for you!!! Know that I don’t know you on a personal level, but i know in my heart you are a Great Person!!!! stay strong!!! its hard i Know.

Latonya

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 03:12:21 +0000

So sorry to hear you’re going through such a rough time. Take all the time you need to get things sorted out on your end. Take care and know that you have lots of people rooting for you!

By: JaTonya

JaTonya — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 02:18:14 +0000

Just pray about it and remember there is nothing like Peace of Mind.

By: Angie

Angie — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:47:14 +0000

I hear you lady! I am the same way and people don’t get it. I hope you find the peace you need and we’re all here for you to listen if you need us!